Mu Butaliyani, inkuru ya Laura Mesi yakomeje gukurura amatsiko n’impaka ku mbuga nkoranyambaga no mu bitangazamakuru. Uyu mugore w’imyaka 40, uzwi nk’umutoza w’imyitozo ngororamubiri, yafashe icyemezo kidasanzwe cyo kwishyingira, nyuma yo kurambirwa gutegereza umugabo yafataga nk’uw’inzozi ze.
Laura Mesi avuga ko iki gitekerezo cyamugezemo nyuma y’urugendo rurerure rw’amarangamutima. Yari amaze imyaka 12 mu rukundo n’umugabo batandukanye, bituma yisanga mu bihe byo kwiheba, kwibaza byinshi no gutegereza ejo hazaza hatari hasobanutse. Aho gukomeza gutegereza ko umunezero we uzazanwa n’undi muntu, yahisemo kuwugira inshingano ze bwite.
Yagize ati: “Nari narabwiye inshuti zanjye ko nimba ngeze ku isabukuru yanjye y’imyaka 40 ntarabona uwo twahuza umutima, nzishyingira. Numvise ko umunezero wanjye udakwiye gukomeza gushingira ku mugabo.”
Ubukwe bwe bwabaye nk’ubusanzwe bw’abandi bashakanye, nubwo bwari bufite igisobanuro kidasanzwe. Yambaye ikanzu y’umweru, yambika impeta, hategurwa cake igeretse inshuro eshatu, ndetse atumira abashyitsi barenga 70 barimo inshuti n’abavandimwe baje kumushyigikira. Ibyo birori byose byatwaye amafaranga agera ku 8,700 by’amadolari y’Amerika, ayo yose akaba yari yarayizigamiye kugira ngo yizihize uwo munsi udasanzwe mu buzima bwe.
Nubwo mu mategeko ubukwe bwo kwishyingira (buzwi nka sologamy) butagira agaciro, Laura avuga ko atari ugushaka icyemezo cy’amategeko, ahubwo yari ubutumwa bwo kwiyakira no kwihesha agaciro. Kuri we, uwo munsi wari umwanya wo kwiyemeza, kwishimira uwo ari we no kugaragaza ko umuntu ashobora kuba yuzuye nubwo yaba ari wenyine.
Mu gihe hari abafashe iki gikorwa nk’ubusazi, kwiyemera birenze urugero cyangwa gushaka kumenyekana, Laura yasobanuye ko atari ko yabibonaga. Ati: “Uwo munsi wari uwanjye. Nta kintu na kimwe cyashoboraga kunyambura umunezero wanjye. Nari nishimira kuba ndi njye, uko ndi kose.”
Nyuma y’ubukwe bwe, Laura yakoze nk’abandi bashakanye, ajya mu kwezi kwa buki wenyine mu gihugu cya Egypt. Yavuze ko uru rugendo rwamufashije kurushaho gutuza, gutekereza ku buzima bwe no kwizihiza intambwe yari ateye. Yongeyeho ko nubwo yishimiye kwishyingira, adafunze umutima ku rukundo rushya.
Ati: “Niramuka mpuye n’umugabo ukwiye, uwo twahuza umutima, niteguye kwiha ‘gatanya’ nkagenda ngashyingiranwa na we.” Ibi yabivuze ashaka kugaragaza ko kwishyingira bitamubuza gukunda cyangwa gukundwa, ahubwo byamufashije kwiyubaka no kwimenya neza.
Laura Mesi afatwa nk’umugore wa mbere wo mu Butaliyani wakoze ubukwe bwo kwishyingira ku mugaragaro. Ku bwe, iyi ntambwe yari igamije cyane cyane guha ubutumwa abagore n’abandi bose bumva ko bagomba kubanza kubona uwo bashakana kugira ngo bumve bishimye. Asanga kwikunda, kwiyitaho no kwiyakira ari byo shingiro ry’umunezero urambye.
Inkuru ye yakomeje gutuma abantu benshi baganira ku gaciro k’umuntu ku giti cye, igitutu sosiyete ishyira ku bashaka bashakanye, n’uburyo umunezero utagomba gupimwa n’uko ubana n’undi muntu. Ku bwa Laura, ubuzima bushobora kuba bwiza, bufite intego n’ibyishimo, nubwo umuntu yaba atabana n’umugabo cyangwa umugore.
Mu ncamake, Laura Mesi yifashishije ubukwe bwe bwite nk’uburyo bwo gutangaza ko umuntu ashobora kwihitiramo inzira ye, akabaho ubuzima yishimiye, atagombye gutegereza ko hari undi muntu uzaza kumwuzuza. Inkuru ye ikomeza kuba isomo ku bantu benshi ku bijyanye no kwikunda, kwiyubaha no gufata ibyemezo bigamije amahoro yo mu mutima.
